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The phenomenon of projection : my friend, her boyfriend, and me

After deciding on never to advice my friend on her relationship after her 5 th breakup with the same guy, I thanked god I’m not like her. My growing dislike towards her however, soon led me to realize that I’m actually just like her. In the wise words of The Wizard Liz, “ some people don’t want to be helped, they don’t change no matter how hard you try to help them ”. That’s what I’ve been trying ever since my friend got into a relationship. She fails to set boundaries every single time and when it gets too overwhelming, they breakup only to be back together a few days later. And I, every single time comfort her, advising her to not repeat the mistakes only for her to end up in the same situation. When she called me the other day crying, I was so tired of repeating the same things that I didn’t even bother to say anything. Thankfully she understood and hung up. So far I may look like a bad friend, but she only calls me when she breaks up so I am not the only one here. But anyways I